Sunday, October 4, 2015


"My days are in the yellow leaf;
The flowers and fruits of love are gone;
The worm, the canker, and the grief
are mine alone!"
Byron, On This Day I Complete My Thirty-Sixth Birthday

 Why do people usually have some kind of crisis in the middle of their lives? Although each person is different and unique, there are some underlying factors that seem to touch most cases. The concept of mid-life is similar to the task of climbing a gigantic mountain where, first, one side of the peak must be conquered in getting to the top. Then, the other side of the mountain needs to be skillfully descended before the ultimate success of the venture can be proclaimed and enjoyed. One author expresses it this way:
"It is a time when a man reaches the peak of a mountain range. He looks back over where he has come from and forward to what lies ahead. He also looks at himself and asks, “Now that I’ve climbed the mountain, am I an different for it? Do I feel fulfilled? Have I achieved what I want to achieve?" - Jim Conway, Men in Mid Life Crisis.
In addition to this evaluation of achievements as compared to dreams, there is also much thought given to what can be done with the rest of one’s life considering what was learned on the first leg of the journey. By this time in a person’s life, there is usually a much greater and realistic knowledge of one’s strengths, gifting and weaknesses than there was at age twenty. In light of the learning process, mid-life provides an excellent opportunity for a person to make a mid-course shift and focus in on that which he or she does well.
The whole area of self-worth reemerges as one evaluates accomplishments in the face of goals. If the person has not accomplished what was set out for, dissatisfaction will likely be experienced. If he or she has been unable to achieve personal dreams, discouragement and depression may be experienced as one faces the possibility that he or she never will. The person may conclude; “I guess I just don’t have what it takes: I’m an utter failure.” Since at least part of ones' self-image is based on our physical strength, athletic ability and youthful looks, some serious mental readjustment will need to take place.
In the reevaluation of self, the whole area of social relationships will come into scrutiny. This may be confounded by the fact that his or her children are moving into their teen years and are less respectful than they used to be. The marital relationship may have suffered due to living in two different worlds: the husband immersed in his work and the wife with the children and the running of the home. If his wife works, a whole other possible area of distancing may threaten marital closeness.

By this point in life, it is not uncommon for a man to feel as if he has no deep and satisfying relationships with other men. His friendships may all be more work-related dissatisfying and not lend themselves to inner opening. He may yearn for or idealize “the good old days” of his youth where he had a broad and satisfying range of relationships. As if this was not enough, society through the media proclaims the message to him that he is over the hill as youth is heralded and aging is portrayed as the ultimate curse.
According to Conway, “reassessment is the prevailing theme of mid-life crisis.” (Page 28 of his book). All kinds of questions are asked, most of which have no easily discovered answer. Have I botched up my life? Are my kids the way they are because I wasn’t a better father / mother? Where is the intimacy I yearn for with my spouse? Why am I so bored at work? Should I pursue a different career? Are the things really true that I based the first half of my life on? In some ways, the person in mid-life is asking many of the same questions as his teenage son or daughter.
The bottom line for most people are the questions they ask themselves is a frantic search for purpose and meaning in their lives. They want their contribution to count toward something that they esteem as important. In mid-life, the pressure to produce may be more keenly felt because the person has passed from being “the promising youth to the experienced veteran.” Whereas people in their youth are usually able to pardon their lack of significant achievement because they are just beginning, middle-aged men and women are much harder on themselves. They begin to realize that if it hasn’t happened by now, what they yearn for may never come into being. Since much maybe riding on a person’s success (self-image, prestige, security, significance and self-worth) a crisis of monumental proportions is easily the result. 

(The above was taken from a thesis I wrote in the early 1980's as part of my course work for a Master's Degree.)
Questions to consider: To what degree have you experienced mid-life crisis? How has your struggle with mid-life crisis been similar or different to this brief post? How has or might listening to God be helpful in processing your experience of mid-life? Please send your comments to:

Sunday, September 27, 2015

Which Way is the Wind Blowing in Your Life?

I often ask people if their life so far is turning out the way they thought it would. The answer is always that life has not gone according to their expectations.  Jesus expressed it this way in John 3:8: “You know well enough how the wind blows this way and that. You hear it rustling through the trees, but you have no idea where it comes from or where it’s headed next.”

Some of the twists and turns in my life have been and still are very painful. Others are like wonderful surprises that fill my heart with joy and wonderment. Watch this five-minute video and ponder the question: How has the wind been blowing in my life?

Click on picture below to play video

Sunday, September 20, 2015


One of my coworkers pointed out that a lot of the things I put online are super serious. She said that I'm not that way at work. I joke around a lot with people on the team I work with. She suggested I lighten up so people online can get to know the real me.

I spent a lot of time this morning trying to find something humorous to post on my blog today. First - I did a Google search for jokes about listening to God. Then I tried to find some funny cartons. Then I looked into Christian comedians on video.

Finally, I ran across the comedy of Michael Jr. His stuff really made me laugh out loud. So I though I'd post two of his videos. The first one is on homeschooling and the second is on his calling to comedy. I hope they make you laugh and bring you joy.  


Sunday, September 13, 2015

Listening and Inner Healing Prayer in Costa Rica

                Bruce, Lidiette, Rusty, Jodi & Dexter                                        in                                        75 Costa Ricans took part in this
                  Our hosts: Dexter & Lidiette Watson                                  Suburban                                 2-day seminar from 8 am to 4 pm
                 Presenters: Bruce & Jodi Hook & Rusty                    San Jose, Costa Rica                              on Sat-Sun, Sept 4-5, 2015

What did God accomplish in the lives of those who attended the seminar?

  • In the eternal pact God made with me, He wants me to be His healthy daughter who listens for His guidance on a daily basis and to be free from all bondage.
  • I learned to stop worrying and to instead yield everything into God’s hands and relax. I talked everything over in depth with Him, listened, and really enjoyed it. I want to do this as a lifestyle. 
  • He showed me His capacity to reveal His presence in every event of my life. He showed me the lies I’ve believed and replaced them with His truth. 
  • God liberated me from the captivity of loneliness I’ve lived with since I was an infant. 
  • It's new and important to me the fact that prayer is more about listening than petitioning. Now I know that I can listen and receive healing from Him. And I can learn to do this ministry with others as well!
  • I learned that what I want God to heal is not necessarily what He wants to heal.
  • The seminar helped me to forgive myself and to forgive those who hurt me in the past.
Thank you for your prayers, gifts and many acts of love that made all of this possible. Please pray that listening and inner healing prayer and discipleship from the inside out will multiply throughout Costa Rica and to her neighbors to the north (Nicaragua) and south (Panama) for His glory!

Sunday, August 30, 2015


It wasn’t their swords that empowered Israel to possess the land. It wasn’t their muscular strength that gave them victory. But it was God’s great power [His arm] and strength [His right hand]. You were with them and favored them with the light of Your countenance because You loved and delighted in them.

My God, You alone are my King. Your commands led Jacob’s people to victory. Yes, You spoke these victories into reality for Your chosen ones. It is only because of Your supernatural intervention that we are able to push back and resist our enemies. I will not trust my bow to help me. My sword can’t save me or give me victory. It is only because You rescued me {over and over again} from all of my foes and gift me with success that I am able to go forward. 

We will praise You each and every day; we will give thanks to Your name forever. (Paraphrased from Psalm 44:3-9)

I came to faith in Christ around my 21st birthday out of extreme lostness and depravity. I have been walking with Jesus … often three steps forward and two backwards ... for 45 years. I used to think I chose to follow and serve Christ as though it was something I somehow achieved.

More recently it has become more and more clear to me that the truth is that God the Father somehow saw me and knew me before I was even placed in my mother’s womb … and that He decided to delight in me. Obviously, it is not my personality and giftedness in speaking, writing or counseling that has opened the doors for me to be engaged in what I am doing today.

It is by the pure and unadulterated grace of My Creator who decided to set His love on me that I was lifted out of the mud and mire of the pit of despair that entrapped me. He is the One who set my feet on solid ground and has steadied me as I have walked along. He is also the Person who gave me the new song that I am singing. If you know and are walking with Him, you are here for the same reason.

Zephaniah 3:17 is a truly remarkable verse of Scripture. “I Delight in You” is a video montage set to this verse by John Nuttall. Click anywhere on the picture below to meet God in a special way as you worship Him through this unusual song. 


Sunday, August 23, 2015


I read and put Psalm 34 into practice last Wednesday morning. First I studied and underlined the words and phases that stood out and touched my heart. I've typed and paraphrased them below. Then I prayed the Psalm into practice and experienced it.

»» I sought the Lord for help, and He answered me. He saved, rescued and delivered me from all that I feared. This poor, afflicted, and broken man cried out to the Lord in desperation, and He heard me, saved me, and gave me victory over my many troubles and distresses.

Truth is that, even though I can’t see him, the angel of the Lord camps around me, and he protects me. Amazing!

As if this wasn’t enough, the Lord Himself actually sees me: His eyes are always upon me. He really listens to my prayers. Though it sounds too good to be true, His ears are attentive and honed in to my cries for His help. In Genesis 16:13, Hagar experienced God in this same way!

Your Holy Word promises and assures us that You are especially close to all brokenhearted people and that You find joy and delight in rescuing those whose spirits are crushed. That’s because as believers we have many problems, afflictions, and difficulties that are the result of living in broken and dysfunctional world. However when we pour out our hearts to You and lay these burdens at Your feet, You rescue us from them and give us the strength to carry on.

Thank You Lord that as You redeem and ransom the lives of Your servants’ that not one person who trusts and takes refuge in You will be judged as guilty.

As an application of Psalm 34 I spent 20 to 30 minutes calling out to Jesus and making a list of things I wanted Him to rescue and deliver me from. I laid each one of these burdens at His feet. As a result, I went into my day feeling much lighter and freer. I followed David’s example by taking my burdens to Jesus and asking for His help and victory over the things that were troubling and stressing me out.

Let me encourage you to accept the Psalm 34 challenge by spending a morning this week with God making a list of the things you want to be rescued and delivered from and laying each one at His feet. If you accept this challenge, I’d love to hear your experience of Psalm 34 at  

Sunday, August 16, 2015


“Asking where You are, Lord
Wondering where You've been
Is like standing in a hurricane
Trying to find the wind.
And hoping for Your mercy
To meet me where I am
Is forgetting that Your thoughts for me outnumber the sand.

You filled the sun with morning light
You bid the moon to lead the night
You clothe the lilies bright and beautiful.

You're already all I need
already everything that I could hope for
You're already all I need
You've already set me free
already making me more like You
You're already all I need 
Jesus, You're already all I need.”

Do you ever find yourself struggling in your walk with Jesus … feeling all-alone, fearful, seeking Him and waiting for Him to show Himself, when, truth is, He already has and is? Where are you at in finding Him to be all that you really need?

“Already All I Need” is performed by Christy Nockels from her album “Into the Glorious” released on April 3, 2012 by Sparrow Records and sixstepreconds. Download this song today from iTunes, Amazon, or your favorite music downloading service.