{Part 3 of a series on “Understanding
People as Fallen Image Bearers.” Part 1 was the subject of Post #49. Part 2 was
covered in Post #50}
Let’s look at another human
capacity where problems can arise that impact the human personality: Like GOD every
image-bearer possesses the ability to think and use his or her mind.
Scripture places a great
deal of emphasis on man's ability to think. When Adam fell, he lost the true knowledge
that God had originally given him in and, as a result of his transgression, all
men "in Adam have turned away from the source of truth and have exchanged the
truth of God for a lie." (Romans 1:21).
The very first sin was aimed
at the MIND. In Eden, Adam and Eve knew where life was to be found, but they
chose to listen to Satan's lie which, in effect, was this: "You can be a more
fulfilled person by acting independently of God." This is the LIE that stains
all lies. Adam and Eve abandoned the premise for clear thinking and, ever since
that moment, the mind of all humanity has been plunged into moral darkness.
An examination of several Biblical passages shows:
- Sin has interfered with clear thinking (Ephesians 4:17-18)
- Our thoughts play an important part in human functioning (Proverbs 23:7)
- We must fill our minds with the truth of the Word of God in order to renew the knowledge lost in the Fall (Romans 12: 1-2)
HOW THINKING DEVELOPS
A child is a student of
human nature from the moment he arrives in this world. Initially, a child does not have the capacity to
understand thought processes. Due to this, the first thing that develops in the
child is a keen power of observation. At this stage, images are formed. These
are mental pictures of what is going on in his or her world. Then come words that clothe the images and help to
solidify them. Later come beliefs or set ideas about life - assumptions regarding how to experience happiness or to avoid unhappiness.
Interaction with others
however, can be painful. Hurt people tend to hurt people. The longer the delay
a child experiences in getting his or her needs met, the stronger will be the
belief that life depends on trusting one’s own resources. The fall has already
firmly planted in the mind of every human being the idea that life can be found
in self-determination and the unfolding of life's events tends to reinforce
this idea.
It is important to remember
that great pain exists in the personality when the crucial needs in the
personal circle (security, significance, and self-worth) go unmet. It has been
said that the moment a person realizes that the people in his world are unable
to quench the deep ache and longing in his heart, he experiences the deepest
pain known to the human soul.
WHAT IS FOOLISH THINKING?
Proverbs 22:15 tells us: Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child…”.
Foolish thinking is the sort of thinking which leads a person to depend on
something other than God for the meeting of our basic needs.
There are three main
contributory causes to 'foolish' thinking;
- The carnal nature.
- Observation of others.
- The hurts and traumas of life.
This additional information
enables us to build a bigger and clearer picture of why problems develop. The human mind,
stained by the LIE that was introduced in the Garden of Eden, causes a person
to foolishly believe that he can go about the task of meeting the deep
thirsts and deep longings within his spirit through his own efforts apart from
God. These wrong beliefs, although unnoticed or unconscious, nevertheless play
a major part in causing and maintaining of personal problems.
A simple illustration for understanding the
influence of thinking on the rest of the personality know as the ABC Model is
as follows:
A = The Activating Or
Wounding Event
B = The Evaluation Or Interpretation Of The Event (self-talk)
C = The Resulting Emotion
A is not the cause of C. It is B that produces C.
Part of pastoral care and counseling is to bring
truth to bear in order that the one receiving help is renewed by it. The level
to which our own thinking has been renewed and transformed is crucial.
The
weapons we fight with are not the weapons of the world. On the contrary, they
have divine power to demolish strongholds. We demolish arguments and every
pretension that sets itself up against the knowledge of God, and we take
captive every thought to make it obedient to Christ.
2 Corinthians 10:4-5, NIV
YOUR INNER CONVERSATION
Though largely unnoticed, we talk continually to ourselves in sentences
and from our inner conversation come our feelings, our reactions and, to some
extent, our behavior.
LISTEN TO YOURSELF TALK
Some of
our thoughts have a way of repeating themselves over and over again. They drone
on just beneath the level of consciousness and without our realizing it
influence our lives greatly.
IDENTIFY FOOLISH THINKING
Foolish
thinking is all thinking that is inconsistent with God's Word and is based on
wrong basic assumptions. These foolish thoughts need to be recognized for what
they are.
REPLACE FOOLISH THINKING
Our
belief system is a powerful part of the personality. A skilled pastoral care
giver or counselor recognizes this and knows how to make it work to advantage
by filling the counselee’s mind with truth to replace foolish thinking.
EMBRACE WISDOM AND TRUTH
God's
Word is His expressed wisdom. Time must be spent regularly reading, studying,
and listening to His Word, as the tendency of the rational mind is to turn
again to foolishness.
SOME TAPES YOU MAY BE PLAYING TO YOURSELF
1. I should help everyone who
needs it.
2. I am inferior.
3. God doesn't love me.
4. I am too bad to be loved.
5. It is terrible when things
go wrong.
6. Self-discipline is hard to
achieve.
7. Strong people don't ask for
help.
8. Anxiety is dangerous.
9. My childhood will always
affect me.
10. I need to be sure in order
to decide issues.
11. I must look after number
one.
12. There is a perfect solution
for everything.
13. Making a mistake is
terrible.
14. It is better not to tell
people my problems.
15. People will let me down.
16. Knowing “why" is
essential to my peace of mind.
17. I should never upset
anyone.
18. If I am criticized, I must
be a bad person.
19. Other people are a threat
to me.
20. I deserve to be punished for
my mistakes.
21. I am wrong if a person is
hurt by my words and actions.
22. I will get nothing out of
giving pleasure to others.
23. Crying out loud is a sign
of weakness and immaturity.
24. If people cared for me,
they would know what I want.
25. Emotions will only interfere
with my ability to succeed.
26. People are not to be
trusted.
27. There are ways in which I
am defective as a person.
28. It is better to keep my
thoughts to myself.
29. People should trust me.
30. People must love me if I am
to feel good.
31. People should be condemned
when they do wrong.
32. I must do everything
"perfectly" or I will not feel good.
33. People ought to follow the
advice I give.
34. Possible is the same as
probable.
35. I ought to do better ... I
ought to do better.
36. I can't change what I
think.
37. Christians must never get
upset.
38. I must never show weakness.
39. What's the use? Giving up
is the best policy.
40. I must never tell people
how I feel; they might dislike me.
41. The more I please people,
the more they will like me.
42. It is terrible if people
don't like me.
43. I am unattractive.
44. I have no talents.
45. I will never be any good.
46. I must get what I want in
order to be happy.
47. I can't stand it if people
don't like me.
48. I am stupid.
49. I can't do anything right.
50. There I go again.
AN AUTO-EVALUATION of the RATIONAL CIRCLE
{Please listen to God over the following questions}
- Am I conscious of things I may be saying to myself in response to things that happen in my life? If so, what are they?
- What do my dominant thoughts or beliefs about myself, life, and/or God seem to be?
- What was my biggest hurt or traumatic life experience?
- What do I say to myself today as a result of this traumatic event or hurt?
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