- The disparagement of one’s own abilities;
- Communication that expresses something negative about its originator; making negative statements regarding one’s own appearance or abilities, such as saying “I’m so fat” or “I’m such an idiot”
- Expressing disapproval or being critical of oneself.
I. EARLY NEGATIVE EXPERIENCES
II. MISCONCEPTIONS @ the NATURE of SELF, LIFE or of OTHERS
- Who I am isn't good enough. Nothing I can do will ever be enough.
- I should feel ashamed of myself just for being me.
- I know I’m going to fail—so there’s no point in even trying.
- At least I will always be right about one thing: my inadequacy.
- I have nothing of value to offer anyone. I don’t belong. I am an impostor.
III. A CONSTANT FEAR AND SENSE OF INSECURITY
IV. A MAL ADAPTIVE STRATEGY TO PROTECT THE SELF
- Avoiding others’ attention if possible; he will try to divert attention away from himself, keep the focus on other people or things;
- Managing others’ expectations: to lower others’ expectations, he will tend to apologize in advance for every forthcoming “failure” and deliberately act as inadequately as possible so that no-one expects anything else.
Part II of this fascinating article about Self-Deprecation will be posted on Sunday,
February23, 2014. It will also include a link to addition writings by Barry the Scholar.